UPDATE. Thank you everybody. My son decided he wants to talk to the teacher himself and prepared thoroughly. However, by mistake he came a day later than his appointment and the teacher did not want to talk to him.
Thank you all for the suggestions! Over the weekend she napped both days! GASP. Starting Friday we got back to falling asleep in her own bed easily with no fighting. Book, Song, Sleep. I told her I would stay until she fell asleep but then I would leave. I told her I was going to read my book though, and that made ME feel better. And I told her that I would leave after she fell asleep so she would toss and turn but not wake up and run out of the room immediately.
She is still waking up at Midnight-1am though and coming into our room. And even if she does sleep in our bed, she's tossing and turning all night. She's too hot, mostly I think, and I refuse to go back to my husband and I switching out nights in the spare bedroom. I know I googled a ton but the truth is, I'm so selfish! I want my bed back! I want my husband back! I want to be able to sleep without being woken up every 30 minutes. And on top of that...I need to be up at 6 every day and it's pouring into my job and making me do poor work. SO...
A few of you suggested putting up a blanket in our room and letting her sleep on that. I will try that this week! Thank you!
Four weeks ago on Monday we went to a hockey game and it's been a catastrophe since. No changes occurred other than this. We had switched to a toddler bed months before and it was a perfect and smooth transition. Monday she switched to the 2's classroom but I really don't think that changed much. Same center, she does before and after care so she's always had 3 different people watching over her during the day. The only thing that changed is the second caregiver. And honestly, that changed often too because they let her attend all different rooms to get her ready. Either way, this problem started weeks before that.
Anyway, completely and utterly afraid of us walking away during bedtime. NO ISSUES if she's playing in her room (she's really into trying to dress/undress herself, no toys other than a few stuffies), No issues at school when we leave her, it's only around bedtime. We let her sleep in our bed so she's always asking for that. She screams and cries and has a full blown panic attack at bed time. Before this it was hug, kiss, lay down and that's it. I'd walk out with a smile and she'd smile and she'd pass out.
I looked all over the internet and I see that this is the worst time to let habits like laying next to her bed, laying in her bed, standing while she falls asleep, sneaking out of the room while she falls asleep and letting her sleep in our bed. If she does fall asleep she wakes at midnight and then at that point I've already slept a bit and just bring her into bed since I Have to wake up at 6am. SO...
Any tips? Advice?
Karma is a bitch! :)
ETA: She also spent a weekend at my MIL house last weekend and slept her normal hours on a mattress on the floor in their room. She's been sleeping LOADS more at school and they've been telling me they have to WAKE her up and it's hard. Obviously because she's not getting any sleep at home. :/
Should I be firm or cave and let her sleep in our room with the hopes she'll soon grow out of it?
So when, at 10 months, my daughter Ellie wasn't crawling or making moves towards standing or walking, my GP referred her to a pediatrician, who referred her to occupational therapy and physiotherapy, thinking she was just slightly developmentally delayed.
But the results of an xray has shown that, actually, her hips are displaced. So now we have to take her to see a specialist at Sick Kids and discuss treatment options.
Has anyone had any experience with this? How was it treated? Is it a concern anymore? Do you have to be worried/careful with their hips?
Sorry, I'm just worried about this and need input from those who are experienced.
He bit another kid at preschool in December (on the finger), he bit his sister last night SO HARD he left a huge bruise on her arm, and now just this morning he bit his sister again on the hand. He left deep teeth impressions. HE KNOWS BETTER. This is what is so frustrating. He's been bit by other kids before and he knows how much it hurts (recently he was bit by some strange kid on the playground).
He knows he's not supposed to bite, yet he continues to do it anyway. He gets sent to his room (there's no toys, no books, etc. It's just his bed and a closet full of clothes. We've had to remove all the toys and books from his room because he could care less about being sent to timeout on the stairs or having toys removed from the play room).
All three times it has happened during play time and it is because the other child wasn't doing what my son wanted. We just can't seem to make it clear to him that the other children (the kid at preschool and his sister) don't have to do what he wants. They can do what they want. Then we get back the sassy response of "I make the rules!" and "Yes, they do!"
We have talked at length about this issue, about telling Mommy and Daddy he has to pee, but he still refuses. The second issue is the poop. We've been "potty training" for well over a year and he has NEVER pooped in the toilet. He has a more or less consistent schedule (pooping about once a day right after lunch). I know this and will make him sit on the toilet after lunch. He's stubborn little behind will hold it for as long as it takes. It never fails, as soon as he gets back into his underwear (and into his room) he poops himself.
I give him privacy (always) when he's in the bathroom. We've read books, watched videos, talked, tried more reward systems than I can count but he still refuses to 1) tell us when has to go (both poop and pee) and 2) poop on the toilet.
EDIT: We already make him clean up his own underwear/mess when he does. We have a sprayer (we used to use cloth diapers) and he cleans up his mess/himself and puts himself in new underwear like it is no big deal. He just doesn't care.
Last year, when I had my baby, my husband's work gave us a gift of a car seat cover/sack by a company called Gagou Tagou. It's a more lightweight version of the Jolly Jumper Cuddle Bag. We washed it after it was no longer needed.
But now it is needed, and...I can find how to install the bottom section to the car seat but I can't find how to attach the top to the bottom. It's zippable but the left side has four connectors (two on the bottom section, two on the top section) and none on the right side.
I know it's a long shot that maybe anyone would know how this works but I'm beyond frustrated. Does anyone know how to work this thing?
I was asked to interview a K teacher (2-3 questions, very specific to special needs and stuff like that, I can put them into the post) via any type of communication, be it e-mail, phone/Skype, private messaging - my instructor doesn't care.
Anyone willing to spend a few minutes answering?
My husband and I are at a loss. There have been no major changes in our life, nothing to indicate stress that would cause him to start sucking on it. We don't know why he's doing it (when we ask him, he says nothing) or how to get him to stop.
My son (6) does not wish to be left alone. Hes afraid of monsters.
I wish i could be patient enough for it not to drive me mental. Its so advanced that if i turn around to turn out a light he will turn too.
So when hes being irritating about brushing his teeth, or some other micro battle what can i do given i cant step out the room?
My 4 year old LOVES Snoopy from Peanuts. And she's expressed a desire to see the new Peanuts movie. There's a theatre nearby that will do one showing of the movie with reduced volume and the lights on dimly. But it's being shown on Wednesday, so I'd have to keep her home from kindergarten that day.
I know it's just one day and it would be to do something special, but part of me says wait and take her to a regular showing over a weekend or on the day off that's coming up at the end of the month.
What say you, oh P101? What are your thoughts?
(I realise this isn't the most serious question, but I need help deciding, as my husband has said it's up to me.)
My daughter turns 2 in November and has basically potty trained herself. She loves her potty, she doesn't mind using public toilets (I have to hold her on the seat), she even used a bush the other day when we were on a hike. She rarely has accidents and since she started wearing underwear about a month ago she had never pooped her pants.
Except when my husband, her dad, is around. Not even just when they are alone, either. Yesterday I was on the computer, my husband was on his phone and my daughter was playing. She asked to sit on the potty (she can't take her pants off herself yet) so my husband helped her. She asked for him to sit with her, so he did. She didn't do anything, just got up a couple of seconds later. Two minutes later, she pooped in her pants.
Like I said, I am not stressed about it at all. I know she's ridiculously young but I just find it really weird that she spends days with me with zero accidents and then spends an hour with Dad and has several. She uses the potty with him around as well, but then randomly doesn't.
Anyways, anyone have similar stories? Anything I should be doing or do I just keep letting it go?
Hi p101. I'm hoping you all can maybe help advise me in how to interpret this note I got from my 4 year old's junior kindergarten teacher today.
It said that my daughter has been "touching" kids in her class and, when talked to about it, she apologizes but then she starts doing it again. The letter asks me to talk to my kiddo about it.
It doesn't specify how she's touching these kids, which I find unhelpful. Is she hitting? Pushing? Or does the school have a policy of never touching anyone for any reason??
I'm just trying to div out my feelings on this and how to talk to my kid about it. Does anyone have any feedback on how to handle this?
My kid *wants* to not get in trouble, wants to not mess up at this, but he has struggled with it for quite a while now. Now that we're in public school, it's a bigger deal. Yet, no teachers or doctors or anyone we've talked to has given us one bit of help or direction on how to help him. Surely there are good resources for such a common problem in this age group?
I would love to hear anything that worked for others or any resources that are worth looking into.
Baby girl got her first infection at 20 months after starting pre pre pre school! Woo, I want to bronze the antibiotics. Haha. Kiiiidding...ear infection with 103 fever for about five days.
Any way, been almost a week with no fever but still finishing up the antibiotics. Her whole body is covered in a rash! :( Gross. It's itchy but perfectly normal reaction (per pediatrician) to antibiotics and she was cleared to go back to school.
What is the best way to sooth this annoyance? She's still a solid 12 hour a night sleeper with no struggle to go to bed bit she's been waking up in the middle of the night and having issues going back down. Oatmeal bath is good but can't do that at 1am
Any suggestions, help, advice is great!! Tia( Rash picCollapse )
My 4 year old starts junior kindergarten on September 8. That means I have to start packing lunches for her, something I've never had to do before.
I need lunch ideas! I don't want to always give her a sandwich or at least not the same sandwich. She loves fruits and veggies so I have plenty of things to go along with the main part of her meal. But I'd like ways to incorporate meat into her main part of the meal.
Can anyone offer some ideas on packed lunches?