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You guys are always so helpful and I really appreciate it :)

1) My daughter is now 17 months and she's turning out to be like her dads side of the family. Shes 22 pounds,and 36" tall. Essentially, super skinny and super tall. This has made finding her clothes really hard for me in addition to not having a ton of time to shop as it is. Lengthwise, as far as pants and the such she is easily 24M/2T as far as her waist goes she can fit into 12M, and sometimes 18M, and anything else hangs off of her. She has two pairs of 18 months jeans and both are honestly a bit too short, but they are still big around her waist, and fall down a bit. How do I find her pants that are long enough for her legs but fit her waist? I have tried one piece outfits but I struggle even more with those.

2) I did a bit of research after she was born and thought I had picked out a good car seat. I hate it. Its a pain to get in and out of the car, and even more of a pain to tighten or loosen the straps. Its super heavy and also awkward to carry if I'm traveling. I'm looking for something thats convertible as shes not forward facing yet but will last her through being a toddler. I prefer something easy to carry/not heavy, and easy to install and figure out. Any general ideas, or brands, or specific models are appreciated. What she has now is a Safety First Complete Air. Also, we have a CR-V and the carseat doesn't even fit the way that its suppose to which is apparently common with this seat.

3) My daughter is still not walking and I know some kids don't until as late as 19 months or so but being a first time mom I was concerned, my pediatrician referred me to the Early Intervention here. She has her first appointment next week and I'm a bit apprehensive and worried that they will tell me somethings wrong. On top of that, she doesn't really talk at all and she seems behind in everything. I was talking to a few moms the other day and they were going on about how good their 13-18 month kids are at shape sorters. While my daughter has one, and likes it, she is nowhere near knowing which shape goes in which hole. She would much rather chuck it across the room. I know "every kid" is different and all that but she just seems behind in every area and my family just tells me I'm paranoid. Has anyone been through early intervention / did it help? Has anyone had kids that were a bit behind compare to other kids, but just fine? I guess I'm just looking for some consolation. Every other kid I know, younger and at her age is walking and talking, and can do stuff like shape sorters so I'm just a bit worried somethings wrong.

My four year old is literally as tall as your average 7 year old, but has a smaller waist then most kids his age. I SO feel your pain when it comes to finding clothes that fit! What I do is buy those jeans that have the little built in belts - they are little pieces of elastic with buttons on them. I cinch them up as far as they go and buy the next size up. They stay up (most of the time) and the length ends up being JUUUUST barely too short, but not noticible. Sweat pants and other pants with drawstring. But generally speaking, we just deal with the fact that pants just don't fit him. He hasn't learned how to use a belt yet, so that isn't any option. If you can sew you can always let the length of pants down a little too.

#3 - I'm sorry you are having to go through that kind of anxiety. My son went through some early intervention for speech therapy and it helped a lot. They taught us how to help him with his speech so we could work with him at home, so we only had to go to a few sessions. I hope you find out that everything is okay.

I second the built-in belts. My daughter is in an 18 month waist and 3T length for pants. It SUCKS and the belts help a bit, but not much. I know Children's Place and I THINK Gap Kids has the built in belts, but yeah we don't buy much else. No belt=it ain't gonna fit. :/

We have the same issue. Waist is barely 18 months while length is between 2T and 3T. Old Navy makes adjustable waist pants like that and Target carries a brand called Cherokee that has them too.

Yeah, I was going to say the same thing. Pants from H&M seem to have those belt things too. They're the best for tall skinny kids.

My niece went through early intervention. It helped her to walk. She had braces that she had to wear on her feet all the time as well as physical therapy 3 or 4 times a week. I don't think there's any reason to fear what early intervention tells you. There's power in knowing one way or the other, you know? Best wishes.

I don't think there's any reason to fear what early intervention tells you. There's power in knowing one way or the other, you know? Best wishes.

You said this much better than I did with way fewer words.

As far as pants go if they have belt loops try dapper snappers. My nephew uses them and thank goodness. keeps his pants up!

http://www.dappersnappers.com/

Yes! Dapper snappers are fantastic!

1) My son will be 3 in December and we've gone through the long legs/skinny waist thing with him for most of his life too. It got much easier when he was tall enough for 2T pants because I was able to find them with adjustable waistbands. They have the elastic with the button holes like the above commenters said. I think the best jeans my son has came from Old Navy and from Target (their Cherokee brand).

2) I find Britax seats to be some of the easiest to install, but they are a bit heavy. What is your situation that you're doing a lot of traveling/installing? Maybe some more specifics would help us help you?

3) My son is still getting Early Intervention services. He was 14 months old at first evaluation and was significantly delayed in each of the six areas they tested. As of his last evaluation, his delays have disappeared except for one area (adaptive skills, because he doesn't dress/undress himself, which I'm honestly okay with) and the only reason he still qualifies for services is because a pediatric neurologist gave him a diagnosis of PDD-NOS earlier this year.

Since he's turning 3 soon he is getting evaluated again to see if he qualifies for EI preschool, since EI only sends workers to your house for the first three years. [My son's been getting a special instructor once a week for an hour since he was 14 months old and a speech therapist once a week for an hour since he was like 17 or 20 months old.] His diagnosis won't qualify him for preschool, he needs to have a significant (25% or greater) delay in two or more testing areas. His special instructor doesn't think he'll qualify, his speech therapist thinks he will, so I guess we'll see.

BUT at any rate, EI has helped my son tremendously. Yes, every kid is different, but there's nothing wrong with getting your kid a little extra help if they need it. My family, my husband's family, and my husband said the same thing about me being paranoid. I wanted my kid evaluated when he was 6 months old, kept putting it off because I was listening to everyone else even though I KNEW something was wrong, then when he was evaluated at 14 months he was at the level of a 9 or 10-month old for a lot of things. You're doing the right thing by getting him evaluated. If nothing else it will give you peace of mind, and if she does end up needing services, she'll get them quickly. Good luck with EI!

We went through early intervention with my daughter. It's so tough to have to deal emotionally with the potential that your kid may need services. The way I approached it was to adopt the attitude that it was better to have the evaluations done sooner and get support and help in whatever way(s) deemed necessary than to do nothing. I told myself that if there were any issues, they'd likely not go away by themselves, so it was better to face it head on for my daughter's sake and get her the help she needed instead of not seeking help and wishing I'd done it years ago. I felt like it was my job as her mom to be doing everything I could for her rather than to get suck on my own emotional hang ups as it was about her and not about me (but don't get me wrong, you should still feel free to feel whatever you feel). To be honest early intervention works. The earlier therapies can be put into place when kids' little bodies and brains are more adaptive, the better. Good luck on your evals. The people we worked with were great.

Edited at 2012-10-31 04:52 am (UTC)

You said this beautifully. :)

My son is almost the exact same size as your daughter. I only buy Old Navy and Children's Place jeans, cinch up the adjustable waistbands, and use Dapper Snappers. Then I put him in shirts long enough to cover the crazy amount of bunching around his waist, lol.

Oh, and my son also had a speech delay. They did a bunch of evaluations every few months and talked about getting him into speech therapy, but by the time they finally got everything approved for it (almost a freaking year!), he was caught up all on his own.

My daughter is tall and skinny too. She's 3 1/2 and can still wear some 12 months in the waist.
Like others have said, look for the button adjustable pants. Old Navy/Gap has a "skinny" line now that's pretty good. And leggings with long shirts/dresses are your friend!! I usually buy a size smaller in the leggings so they fit better in the waist/butt and then pair them with high socks and boots in the winter to hide the fact they're so short on her.

Oh yeah, that too. My 2 yr. old still wears some 6-12 month leggings as capris or with fuzzy boots.

My son sounds like your daughter. He was always in the 95th percentile for height and skinny. He is also very flexible so he has been labeled as 'low tone'. He didn't walk independently until almost 21 months. He started with Early Intervention(PT, OT, ST) at 18 months and still receives PT and OT now at 4 1/2. We had Speech Therapy because my son was only saying a few legible words at 18 months. We didn't start Occupational Therapy until he was 3 because he developed an extremely limited palate and will only eat from a list of 10 foods so we're exploring sensory issues. I think he's just stubborn but I love our therapists. We get these 2 services 2x a week each for 1/2 hour. We graduated from Speech Therapy at 3. Physical Therapy is still testing my son at 6 months delayed for gross motor skills. I think it's a little over the top how they measure and test and evaluate. I mean, the kid is only 4 and you're worried he only jumps 12 inches instead of 18? Really? But the extra physical play has been great. Yesterday, my son was showing me how he learned to do sit-ups. Learning to exercise and be physical is great in my book so I don't argue it. I have been thinking we might stop services because I don't think my son "needs" it anymore, but I don't want to give up the extra attention for him quite yet. Plus it's a little break for me. Early Intervention has been wonderful. It is supervised playtime every week. It's free. Both my son and I have learned quite a bit about different ways to play. I never once felt there was anything wrong with my son. He likes to do things in his own time. And just a word of caution...I used to wish my son would talk more. Now he won't STOP talking. :)

I love our car seat. We have an Evenflo Triumph. While I don't think any carseat is 'easy' to get in and out, this one isn't hard and I take it out on a regular basis. What I love most about it is the ease with which to tighten and loosen the straps. It has a dial that you turn that tightens and a button you hold down to loosen. We have another seat that is such a pain to tighten because you have to pull the strap between his legs which is a ridiculous design because the angle is all wrong to pull it with any ease.


I like the evenflo triumph as well. I have it for both of my children, it's our third type of carseat and my favourite so far.

My 7 month old has a very long torso. I've been putting her in dresses and babylegs. A too big dress looks fine and covers her to her knees.

That's still the easiest solution with my 4 and a half year old who is long torso, short legs, very slim.

Children's Place boys clothes had adjustable waists in small sizes-12 months or 18 months when she was younger-the girl's clothing didn't have adjustable waists until the sizes were a little larger.

Good job for getting an early intervention appointment. Try not to stress! We did it for my daughter's speech and I think it did make a difference. It's better to have things checked out to be on the safe side. :)

For pants, the best I've found for tall skinny girls is Old Navy Leggings. They're several inches smaller around the waist than some other brands I've looked at.

My son has the same body type. I have great news for you: with most clothing brands adjustable waists start at 2t. Switching made my life so much easier.

1. My 23 month old is the same way- tall, and about 21 pounds. To make matters worse, she's potty trained and has been in underwear for months. She can easily still wear 12 month pants in the waist.

She basically wears a TON of leggings- Carter's leggings are actually fairly long for the waist size. I'll often put her in leggings with a skirt over top, because I can buy the skirt in a few sizes down.

The ONLY jeans that fit her anywhere (and we've looked) are jeans with buttonhole elastic trough the waist. GapKids has some right now. Basically, it's a piece of elastic through the waistband, and the elastic has buttonholes cut out of it. Then, there's one button on each side of the waistband, this is all inside. Basically, you can stretch the elastic as tight as you need it, and button it in place on each side. If you have novice sewing skills, you can do this yourself, and buttonhole elastic is available at most craft stores. Hope that helps!

1. My daughter is tall and skinny too. We mostly go with tights and skirts/dresses, or pants with adjustable waist + belts. But really tights work much better. With my skinny boy we did overalls. BabyGap pants fit the best of any we've tried, and have adjustable waist and belt loops.
2. I have a Complete Air, and it's actually lighter than the other seats we've had over the years... you're not going to find something less heavy. A TrueFit would be a good choice for your daughter but it is a lot heavier. There's some new seats out I don't know about, though, so someone else might have an idea.
3. Early Intervention is great. It sounds like she will qualify for services to help catch her up. Lots of my friends' kids have been through it and the majority of them are just fine.

My 4 yr old is all leg. He's got an 18 month waist but needs 5/6 or XS in pants. I just adjust the waist as much as possible and avoid sweats as much as possible. It SUCKS.

The Complete Air is actually on the lighter side compared to a lot of other convertibles. The only real lighter seat you're going to get would be like a Cosco Scenera, and that's going to have all the same installation and use quirks as your Complete Air.

For tall kids your best bet to be able to stay rear facing until the ideal of 3-4 years old are the First Years True Fit, Diono Radian, or Graco Size4Me. All have similar height allowance to the Complete Air, they're all going to be just as heavy but easier to install. What year CRV do you have? That makes a difference too.

Early Intervention is wonderful - because if something is "wrong," you are being proactive about it! You are being WONDERFUL in fact! The sooner you can get your daughter evaluated and, if need be, get her some therapy, the better. And you know, it's not the end of the world, I *promise you*. Don't be scared that they will tell you bad news. Just go into it and you will learn so much. Hey, maybe the evaluation will come out that she's fine. But if she has some delays, you'll be SO GLAD that you addressed them this early.

My daughter was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at a year, and it caught me completely off guard - we didn't even realize she was delayed until 6-9 months. She never did stand up and magically walk across the room one day or go from not being able to speak to suddenly asking me for a peanut butter sandwich and some juice, please. And I had to come to terms with that and all the stories of kids who did. Instead, I reframed everything and I celebrate all of her progress. She's 5 now and doing SO well thanks to her amazing team of therapists. The initial shock of her diagnosis gave way to me being glad that we had a path ahead of us to follow. Early Intervention WORKS. :)

I wish you the best, no matter what the outcome. :)

I seriously think we have the same kid. My son is also super tall and skinny. I buy pants that fit lengthwise and then they make these really cool clip things that you can use to cinch up the back of the pants....I wish I had a name for them but I can't think of it off the top of my head. Also, anything with an adjustable waistband has been a lifesaver.

As far as the carseat, we also drive a CR-V and use an evenflo triumph 65. It isn't the lightest seat in the world, but it is super easy to install, and it has infinity straps that tighten using a knob on the side of the seat. I find it really really easy to use.

And for the last part..My son was about your daughters age before he decided he wanted to start walking, and at 22 months is still only jabbering. Go to the Early intervention appointment and don't worry about it too much. They won't tell you you are doing everything wrong or anything like that. They will give you some ideas for activities and games that you can play with her to try to encourage motor and language development. Just remember that every kid does things at their own pace.

Hope that helped.

You've gotten great comments already, but I wanted to chime in anyway and say that both of my twins went through Early Intervention. It was a big shock to me because my twins were FULL TERM and completely healthy (seriously, my son weighed 8 freaking pounds).

We saw EI for a year with our son because he had eating delays, and saw EI for 6 months with our daughter for her gross motor skill delays. She started walking a few days before turning 18 months old! She has loose ligaments and her ankles are weak. I was nervous and felt inexplicably bad about myself when I found out my kids needed Early Intervention. As if I somehow failed them (random mom guilt). The team we saw for both kids was great though. Very accommodating to our schedule, so sweet with the kids, and happy to answer any and all of my questions. It was very reassuring to have them to lean on, and to learn exercises and techniques to help my kids progress. They just graduated from EI in October. The moral of my story is: It's not as scary as it seems in your head. :)

p.s. If your child has either a cautious or a laid back personality, that might be a large part of her seeming to be behind her peers. My firstborn is suuuuuper laid-back (the pediatrician said he was "content to just sit there because he's happy where he is") and was slow on the milestones, and my daughter is extremely cautious about everything and doesn't like to try until she knows she'll succeed. Her twin is the typical/average one of the bunch in most areas. Every kid hits milestones differently!

Edited at 2012-11-02 02:05 am (UTC)

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