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daniel
wickedcherub wrote in parenting101
I'm 38 weeks pregnant and now beginning to think my furniture set up is not going to work. Please help. I'm sort of in panicky mode at the moment :(

We have a small three bedroom house and a just turned 2 year old son, Liam.

1. Master bedroom can fit our bed, a bassinet with a tiny bit of space left over.
2. Liam's room currently fits his big boy bed, chest of drawers, arm chair, and change table.
3. Third bedroom has been turned into a playroom + fold out futon. Toys etc used to be in the loungeroom, but I found it overwhelming.

So here are my questions. I think they all have to do with the change table hahaha :) I love the change table!!!

a) When baby is a newborn, he will sleep in the bassinet in my room. Where would I breastfeed him at night? My options are, in bed, where my husband also sleeps, go into Liam's room and feed him on the arm chair, the playroom futon, or the lounge room.

b) Where would I change newborn's nappy during the night? Newborn's clothes are in Liam's room at the moment. I can move the change table into our bedroom (and just bring a stack of clothes just in case), or change him in Liam's room. I could change him on the bed next to my husband?

c) When Liam was a newborn, we bathed him in his room, and changed him there on the change table. Where did you change your newborn if you bathed him in the bathroom?

d) I plan to have the boys share Liam's room when the baby is old enough, (when he outgrows the bassinet if we don't co-sleep) which means putting the cot/crib in there, and taking out the arm chair/change table. Where would you put the change table then? Give up on it?

Liam currently sleeps through the night and I don't know how deep a sleeper he is.

Thankyou for any suggestions you may have!

Oh, one more question:

What do you do with dirty disposable nappies? We used to have a nappy pail next to the change table, but it used to get really stinky :( These days Liam doesn't get changed nearly as regularly, so it's not such a hassle to take his nappy out to the bin every time.

I tried to put the diaper change stuff in my daughter's room as well when I was expecting my son, but found it impractical and very quickly moved it into the master bdrm. Middle of the night diaper changes aren't convenient when you need lights on and will probably wake the older child.

I don't even think a change table is necessary, I just used the thick foam pads covered in a fitted change sheet and then a change pad on top of that, but if it fits in your bedroom, why not? I would give up on it when they get a bit older and don't fit on it very well anymore, or are at risk of falling off because they're too active and hard to handle.

I use a garbage bin for diapers, which is close to the changing area. I have to take the bag out every few days max cause it does get very stinky. I think there are air-tight ones you can get.

Also, I would breastfeed right in bed. Make things easy.

I still change my 2 year old on the change table :D


so do I! I love my change table!

we use the diaper genie elite, it doesn't get stinky - but you do have to buy the refils at $8 a pop!

or you can just keep the seal and use regular garbage/recycling bag. that's what we do, though these days i rarely use disposables at home.

Yeah, I heard they were expensive :(

I almost always breastfed in bed at night. We mostly changed diapers in the bathroom (we have a changing pad on master bath counter and like having the faucet for cloth) though now we put the nighttime diaper on in bed after bath.

I never breastfed in bed with my son unless it was middle of the night co-sleeping when he was older. I bought a new U-shaped pillow though, to give it a go!

I've never had a changing table, just a mat I put on the floor. With that in mind...

I breastfed in bed, just made sure I was following safe co-sleeping if I fell asleep... and that happened a lot!
I stopped overnight nappy changes pretty early on, about 3 months, when I realised they were only a bit wet. But when I did do it, I used the bathroom or the hall with the mat. Same for after baths.
I used a bin and nappy sacks, it was ok if emptied daily.

Yeah, I think it's just really the first 3-4 months I'm concerned about. I remember changing Liam mid feed every feed just to wake him up!

I would do all the night feedings/changings in the playroom (on the futon and move the changing table in there....try to not disturb your older son...also the husband...I would even sleep on the futon and move the bassinet in there at first unless your husband is a heavy sleeper.....dirty diapers- we used the diaper genie but...my youngest is 3 1/2 now so I think it may have been the diaper champ ( the one that you can use plastic grocery bags instead of the expensive refills)

You know, this might not be a bad idea. I'll see if I can fit the change table in there. :) :) :)

I'm expecting in a few weeks also, and this is what we're doing:

a. Baby is sleeping in our room for probably at least six months until we move her into our son's room. I'll feed him in bed or the glider in the living room.

b. We have a dresser/changing table combo from when my son was a baby, but since we don't have room for that in our bedroom, we bought one of those plastic chests of drawers to be the baby's temporary dresser while she's rooming in with us. Her changing pad is going to go on top of our dresser. When she switches to my son's room, she'll get the old changing table/dresser and we'll buy him a new one.

c. I don't really get this question. We'll change her on her changing pad in our room.

d. We use a combo dresser/changing table. I would suggest this for saving space.

We did cloth the first time, so we just used a trashcan with a liner and washed every other day. We're planning on doing sposies this time and just having a wastebasket. If it gets too stinky, my husband will have to take it out more often. :P No, just kidding, we'll re-examine options if it starts becoming a problem. But breastfed poop doesn't really stink, so...

Yeah, I think it's really best to have the change table where you're feeding. Especially for the first few months. Thanks :)

you won't want to walk through the house at night. BF baby in bed.

I never had a change table. used the bed at night, used the hallway floor the rest of the time. if you take the bassinet out of your room later on, maybe you could fit it there? or the playroom? I dunno.

I remember doing it a lot with Liam, just walking him up and down the hallways trying to get him to go back to sleep!

I'd move the changing table to the playroom.

If you prefer to sit and nurse, I'd move the chair to the playroom, too. Otherwise, I'd nurse in bed.

Once your baby is to the point where he's ready to move to Liam's room, you're much more likely to need the chair in the night than the changing table (fewer BMs at night by then).

The futon in the playroom is extremely comfortable to sit on, so I think moving the change table to the playroom might be a winner at the moment :D


I never had a change table and always nursed/changed nighttime diapers in bed.

I like having everything in one place. My mother vehemently disagreed with me buying one, and even now keeps telling me to get rid of it, even though I use it multiple times a day with my toddler son still!


I was cleaning or rearranging something when Remi was really little and I actually moved my changing table out into the hall and we liked it so much we left it. If it's an option, it was terribly convenient for us, even if it did require careful walking through part of the hallway

I can see how it would be really great, but our hall is tiny and narrow :( Our whole house is tiny and narrow unfortunately. Makes living on one income easy though, so that's why we're still here!

a.) I always nurse at night in our bed. No way am I going to another room so as not to inconvenience my husband.
b.) I also just changed the baby either on the pack and play changing table while it was in our room or just on our bed at night. I had a stash of baby clothes in our room in case I needed something during the night. If I needed something at night, I made my husband get up and get me what I needed if I was mid changing the baby.
c.) When I bathe my babies in the bathroom, I just lay them down on the carpet to change them and get them dressed. Or on areas where the floor is hard, on the bathroom rug to change them.
d.) I've never had a changing table other than the one that came with the pack and play. We have a changing pad in the baby's room, but honestly it doesn't get used very often and I'm pretty much done using it by about 8 months or so. I just lay baby on the floor for diaper changes.
e.) We use small trash cans in the babies room and next to the pack and play (When we used disposables. We use cloth now.) and it got taken out every other day or so. I have also been known to just bypass the small trash can and put diapers in the kitchen trash since it gets taken out every day or so.

I'm of the mind that both of us don't need to be up if unnecessary! My poor husband gets migraines if he doesn't get straight sleep - it doesn't have to be more than 5-6 hours, but it has to be straight. When he gets migraines, I'm looking after him as well as everyone else :((((((


a) my bed
b) my bed
c) my bed (transport cuddled in towel)
d) because of a-c, we don't have a changing table this time :P
e) at night: throw them at the bedroom door and take them into the bin on my way to the loo; during the day, bin them right away

Haha, I'm not the only one doing #e? XD Although I wouldn't do it with poo-diapers. :x

well, brestfeeding-poo doesn't stink, so that's okay for me. and when my baby started producing stinky poo, she didn't poo at night anymore ;)

I know, but I'm less concerned about the smell than the possibility of spillage because of diaper-unwrapping (as unlikely as it is). But yeah, I can't even remember when, but we didn't have nightly poo for a long time already. Thank goodness!

a) I was too tired to get up. I nursed in bed (but also coslept, so no need for bassinet at all.)

b) I tried moving the changing table into our room, but I just ended up changing him on the bed, with the lights out. I got good at sleep walking diaper changes. I made my husband do it sometimes too. I mean, he is part of the reason for the kid.

c) Bathed in bathroom, changed in bathroom on floor with second. First kid got changed in the bedroom with a body massage. Second kid got the floor.

d) I loved the changing table with my first, but it never got used with my second and it was gone quick. He was too squirrely for it anyway.

We used cloth and just had a hanging bag that zipped up on a hood on the wall, and there never was an odor issue. You should flush the poop anyway regardless and it shouldn't smell as much.

Good luck on your new baby!

Edited at 2012-11-13 05:15 am (UTC)

My answer to all of the above: my bed

I sit up in bed against my pillows and nurse baby. I lay him in front of me on the bed to change the diapers. Then, I toss the dirty diapers in a plastic grocery bag that's hanging off my nightstand. Since baby poops a million times in a night, it goes out daily. During the day we used a Diaper Genie for the first two kids, then with the next we just tossed the diapers into the kitchen trash can.

I fed baby in bed lying close to my husband, but had diaper table and stuff just outside the door, so I wouldn't wake husband who had to work.
When I bathed my son in the bathroom, I wrapped him in a big towel and changed him on the changing table next to, or in the bedroom on the bed. Both rooms where pre-heated before bathtime.
Take out the dirty diapers daily is the only thing that helps. We used a regular bin with lid and plastic liners.

At night I always breastfeed in bed. My husband is sleeping there too, but there is enough room. Unless your husband is an extremely light sleeper, and in that case the baby crying to be fed would have already woken him up, I don't see an issue. It's really the easiest thing for you; this is why room sharing/ cosleeping is so helpful when breastfeeding.

I have never had a change table. I change my daughter either in her crib or on our bed; both are very comfortable, though the crib less so now that it has been lowered. Even if my husband is sleeping in bed, there is still plenty of room.

Nights with a newborn are trying as it is; I recommend just keeping things simple and keeping everything in the bedroom.

Oh, and as for after-bath changing... We just carry her to our bedroom (right next to the bathroom), and her towel is already spread out on our bed (on a change pad, to avoid surprises), and we dry her right there and then put her diaper on.

sorry, one more thing... as i said, i have never used a change table, but i know a lot of people give up on them anyhow once the baby becomes more mobile... i think it will be easiest to change him on his cot or in the crib.

A: I always did feedings in bed. Usually my husband would sleep right through it unless I needed his help.

B: Fold a towel, lay it on the bed, couch, floor, etc, change baby on top of it. I never had a changing table with either of my kids.

C: I didn't dress my babies in the bathroom. I bathed them, wrapped them in a towel or used a hooded towel and took them to our bed for lotion, powder, diaper, clothes, etc.

D: Basically put the change table somewhere that's convenient or just give up on it. I preferred changing on the couch or bed better anyway.

We had a small trashcan we used for disposables that we changed often. I would put each one in a plastic grocery bag, tie it up and drop it in the trashcan. I also placed a stick-on air freshener on the inside of the lid to help with odor. Really though, diapers ended up in whichever trashcan I was closest too. I was too tired to care about odor. haha

1. Feed him in the bed if you can manage it, or in the closest chair or sofa to your bedroom. Your older child will quickly become accustomed to sleeping through feedings, if you use his room.

2. Make a portable changing basket or bag, and just take it with you throughout the house. Even if you have the most awesome changing table ever, you will occasionally need to change a diaper somewhere else, especially if you have more than one floor.

3. On room-sharing - if you love your changing table, try to keep it in the kids' room. I loved ours even though it was just a small dresser with a pad on top, and it's the one thing I really miss from our 2500-mile move. I now change my 15-month-old on the floor in their room or in the living room. A changing pad or clean diaper under her tush works just fine for us.

4. After bathtime with newborns - with both kids we would do the bath in either the kitchen sink when they were very small or the tub in the bathroom, then wrap the baby in a towel and just carry to the changing table. Even if they pee or poop on the way, it's all wrapped up in the towel, and you can clean them off on the table. Now, without the changing table, I carry my towel-wrapped toddler into the shared bedroom and just get her dressed on the floor. (we have wall-to-wall carpeting. If we didn't, I'd still get her dressed on the floor, but on an area rug).

5. Dirty diapers (nappies) - We have NEVER had a diaper pail. When DS was born, we were in a 1-BR apartment and didn't have room, and then after that it seemed like a waste of money. For wet diapers, I just chuck them in the kitchen trash. For dirty diapers, we wrap them in another plastic grocery bag or those small portable pet waste bags that come in a roll, then put in the kitchen trash. I cook from scratch a lot and we have a tiny trash can, so our kitchen trash goes out at least every other day. If the diaper is especially bad, we double-bag it and take it out to the apartment complex's main trash as soon as possible.

I haven't read others comments, so I apologize if everyone's been saying the same things. Just commenting what works for me. :) I only have one child though.

a) I breastfeed the baby in the bed at night, either while lying down, or while sitting on the edge of the bed. I value my own sleep so much that I want to make the nighttime breastfeeding peaceful for MYSELF too. :) If I started going to different rooms or putting on lights etc., I would be fully awake by the time the baby is finished, and would have a hard time falling back asleep.

b) I change my baby's nappy in the bed during the night, but you have to be quick to prevent accidents, haha! I don't have a change table, though. If I had a change table, I would most definitely have it next to the bed! I wouldn't go to a sibling's room to change the baby because at least my baby often started crying and fussing in the beginning when I changed his nappy at night, and that would be likely to wake the sibling up.

c) I change my baby in the bedroom always. I bathe him in the bathroom, wrap him up in a towel, and take him to the bedroom (where I would have the changing table if I had one, ha) :)

d) I would probably try to fit the change table in the boys' room... If it doesn't fit, I'd probably keep the change table in the bedroom and change baby there, especially if he can go through the night without being changed.

I think everyone's answers will be just a little bit different because what works for each person is a little different. Like I couldn't imagine changing a newborn on my bed...maybe it's just because I have a boy, and he occasionally had explosive poops or pee fountains *while* he was being changed..ick, I wouldn't want to do that in bed like some people have! When he was first born we only had a one bedroom apartment, so we actually had his changing table (which was just a dresser with a changing pad on top) in the hallway, and his clothes were all under the changing table. We had a diaper genie elite next to the changing table for the diapers, but we went through so many diapers as a newborn that we just ended up throwing them in a paper bag and taking them out daily until he started having stinky poops from solid food. Then we started using the pail more regularly. If you empty the pail every 1-3 days it doesn't smell too bad, but we also put a baking soda disk in the bottom of the pail outside the bag, and then also sprinkle a little on the inside of the bag every now and then to help absorb odors. Probably take it outside about once a month to air out overnight. If you have the kind of pail that the dirty diapers touch the pail itself and not just the disposable bag part, you'd need to scrub down the whole pail with diluted bleach or something monthly (or when spilled on) to get stinky grime off. Eventually (when he got to squirmy age) we gave up on the changing mat on the dresser and just put it on the floor, under the bed or crib and pulled it out when we needed it.

We did all our baths in the bathtub (no baby tub, just in our laps when he was little) and to dry him, we'd usually lay him down on a towel on top of the plush bath mat we had in front of the shower. Often we'd wrap him in the towel and carry him to the changing table to dress him after, but sometimes I'd dress him right there on the floor.

Long term, you may want to consider multiple possible furniture arrangements and what is in what room options until you find what works best for you. Personally, I'd probably want the changing mat for the baby not in my toddlers room, because I wouldn't want to wake my son up by turning the lights on to see the poopy diaper I'm trying to clean. So I'd find somewhere else to move that--your room, the hallway, the playroom, the bathroom...wherever there's the space to spare for it. Or just get a second changing pad, and lay that on the bed or floor or wherever would be convenient.

I could never get nursing laying down to work when my son was less than 7 or 8 months, so if it were me, I'd totally want that arm chair somewhere suitable for nighttime feeding where I'm not too worried about waking up the toddler. But if the futon's comfortable enough, or the couch in the loungeroom (is that like a living room?) is comfortable enough, go for it. You probably have a better idea than any of us whether you'd rather nurse in bed or in a chair at night. If it ends up the furniture arrangement is not working out, the good news is, you can always rearrange after the baby comes ;-).

Personally, my inclination would probably be to rearrange a bit. I'd move the changing table and chair into the playroom, and move some or all of the toys into older child's room for the time being, or alternately, swap the futon and son's bed and move him to sleep in the "playroom" and leave the other bedroom empty at night for nursing/changes/etc. When they get old enough to be sleeping through the night (both) then I'd rearrange again to put their beds in the same room, and probably be done with the nursing chair and changing table by then. I'm sure you'll figure out what works for you.

PS...dimmer lightswitches are a godsend when you don't want to wake all the way up for those nighttime diaper changes/feedings...there are both models that you install in the wall, and ones that you just plug in an outlet depending on your needs.

Even with 2 boys I changed them both on the bed. I always laid down a water proof pad and even with pee fountains I never had an issue. The pad took the beating and was folded up and tossed in the wash! :)

A). In bed.
B). In bed. Put a plastic pad next to the bed, bring a change of clothes and some diapers in your room each night and put them next to the bed.
C). Unclothe baby in your lap or on a towel on the floor. After bath, wrap baby in a towel and carry to wherever is convenient. Lay out what you need beforehand.
D). By the time they share a room, I'd give up the changing table. Never used one anyway...bought one when my first son was a newborn and always ended up changing him on the bed. Second son had no changing table and I never missed it.

Dirty diapers go straight to the outside trash. However, even my breastfed second son didn't poo more than once a week. Wet diapers stayed in the pail.

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