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Please help me not go bald, lol
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ladyelentari wrote in parenting101
HELP! How do I get my 1-yr old to stop pulling on my hair? He grabs it ALL THE TIME. When I pick him up, when he's nursing, when I'm just sitting on the floor near him, anytime it's within reach. I pull it back in a ponytail and he yanks strands of it out of the rubberband. I can't do any fun hairstyles bc he pulls them apart. AND, he tries eating it! I'll be holding him with his head on my shoulder and he'll wrap his little hands in my hair and start chewing on it. It is driving me BATTY. Please help!
I've tried:
Telling him NO!
Saying OUCH!
Putting him down and walking away.
Gently taking his hands out of my hair and trying to give him something else to hold on to.

I don't know what else to do. I realize it's kind of a comfort thing, but it is seriously driving me nuts. Maybe it's cause he's still pretty much bald?

Give him a hair brush and teach him how to brush your hair. Ok, maybe not for a couple more years. Definitely keep up with saying ouch, removing your hair from his hands/mouth when he is not being gentle, showing him how to be gentle, telling him when he DOES use a gentle touch, and all that like you are already doing. That's good stuff, but it takes a while to sink in. Would he enjoy a doll with long hair? A My Little Pony? A blanket (or taggy blanket) with silky ribbon on the edge?

My 2nd daughter was obsessed with hair as a baby and still is. She wanted to hold my hair while she slept. I tried putting her to bed with a My Little Pony tail in her hand, but it wasn't the same. A blanket with a silk-lined edging? Nope. MY HAIR. That was all she wanted. She's 5 and a half now and still brushes my hair every night before she goes to bed. She's started letting ME brush HER hair recently too, and is finding it relaxing (and I love it when she brushes my hair, now that she's old enough to be gentle, so it's win-win really. We take turns and both love each of our turns). Lately she has been begging me for a lock of my hair. I actually have one (braided, about 6" long) from 3 years ago, if I can find it, and if I can secure it somehow so the hair doesn't just spill everywhere, I might let her have it. I don't know why she's so obsessed with hair, but it's just the way she is.

I love it when my 2 1/2 year old brushes my hair too. Now I'll really be ecstatic when she can wash my hair like they do at the salon, which I think is totally heavenly. :)

Can you hot glue the ends of the lock of hair? I don't know if glue would stick to hair though.

yep glue sticks to hair! Trust me.

My son (20months) loves my hair too... I was just noticing today, in fact, the short pieces at the back that he yanked out when he was younger... So you won't go bald. I promise. :-)

I don't know how to stop it. But I can say that it gets better. The ways he attacked my hair at 12months don't happen nearly as often now... And most of the time, its just when he is needing comfort...

My DD does this. My solution was to chop off all of my hair. It was only a temporary fix. I'm trying to distract her with a lacey, crochted blanket that she can run her fingers through. It's semi-working.

I have ridiculously curly hair that I have no choice but to keep long (otherwise I look like bozo!) and my second child is enamored with my hair. I usually keep it pulled up, myself, and when he gets it, I say, "No, OUCH!" and pull his hands away. Typically if he won't stop, I'll hang onto his hands until he doesn't want to do it anymore (he's just now 8 months). As for the doing it while his head is on your shoulder, how is he getting it? I've never had an issue of my son grabbing my ponytail when his head is on my shoulder (I always keep his face away from my neck and his arms by his side). If you know you're going to be doing that, I'd roll it up into a bun first, honestly. Or brush it over to the other shoulder if its long enough. Otherwise, he's still a bit young to grasp the concept that you don't want him to do it, so you're going to have to rinse and repeat for awhile yet.

My son does this too. When he was a tiny infant he'd grab his own hair, little as there was. I have so many photos of him sleeping like that. Near a year he started grabbing mine. It's such a strong comforting tool for him he literally won't fall asleep unless he is stroking my hair, sometimes raking it over his face (?!?!?!) I just tell him to be gentle when he starts yanking else I take it away.

I did try putting it in buns for a while but that would make him howl like someone had seriously just hurt him.

Some kids just love hair for some reason!

TLDR; teach him gentle touch

I posted about this a while back and I got some great suggestions about covering your hair completely with a Tichel while your holding them...I'll have to see if I can find the links I was given the hair cover worked great. Here's how to tie it:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kcQPuY1wQRE

I just used an over sized scarf but tied it the same way and it worked well.



Edited at 2012-11-15 11:54 pm (UTC)

I say you get a cute as heck pixie cut. I did it and I dont think I will ever grow it out!

I have waist-length hair. I keep it in a bun at all times when I am around my 14-month old son. It's not sexy, but I could really care less about the way I am perceived by anyone who doesn't take the time to get to know me or my family needs. *shrug*

If your hair is inaccessible to him, then you no longer have pulling issues.

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