I fear I may be raising a future B.N.P. politician. Part of me is quite pround that he's developing his own views but i do wish it didn't sound so national frontish.
For the last 6 months my son has been saying a few things i'm not entirely comfortable with.
It started with Asian (Pakistanian) taxi drivers he said he didn't like them because they smelled. (for the record i did not notice a smell)
His best friend is half ghanian but Rueben says he would prefer it if he was white.
and often asks me why if we are in England so many people are not talking English on the bus or whatever.
He has also asked me why there are brown people in England at all.
and recently he's started talking about how two men can not get married or be in love. (we live in England where there has been a lot of debate on this topic recently and we listen to radio four a lot where this was being discussed though i'm not sure if its related at all)
His childminders are also black and the other day he told them that black peoples skin smells of poo. So I got taken a side and told to work on it with him. She told me she was going to do some work on other cultures.
These Ideas are not something he is repeating after hearing from someone else, i'm with him 7 days a week and he spends 16 hours a week with the childminders.
He is exposed to many cultures and colours, we live in a hasdic Jewish neighborhood, with a smattering of polish and Muslims. like I already said his best friend is black, he often is the only white kid at the minders, I do wonder if this is part of the problem, just some weird reaction to being a minority.
not sure what the question is, anyone else? but also at what age is it totally not on for him to be expressing these ideas? and do you think its possible he's inherited his politics from his largely absent father who i must admit i never hear be racist but was quite homophobic but only theoretically ( meaning he was not mean to gays).
I guess feel free to discuss.
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