stop the fighting
I have two kids, Liam (nearly 3) and Toby (nearly 1). They're at the age now where Liam has a major case of the Mine!s and Toby wants to play with (i.e wreck) everything Liam is playing with. So there's a lot of fighting. I'd let them go at it alone if Toby was older, but as it is, Toby is just a baby and doesn't get it.
Liam shoves Toby all the time. Always takes toys off him, shoves him when he's a metre away and a potential threat. Shoves him *after* Toby has taken his toys. He knows he's not supposed to, but Toby shoves Liam too and I feel he thinks it's unfair that it seems to him that he's the only one getting in trouble. Sometimes Liam will give Toby another toy to play with, or part of his toy (eg, another puzzle, different blocks, some cars if he's playing with cars) but Toby only wants to play with whatever is in Liam's hands.
I figure this is just a phase, and things will be different once Toby grows up a bit, even though it's doing my head in at the moment. Toby's only 10 months old and already they're fighting in the car 'HE'S TOUCHING ME!!' fisticuffs type fighting.
Liam and Toby have cousins James (3) and Dotti (1). James and Liam are BFFs, and James is a super sweet kid, but has taken Liam's lead in bullying Toby. He's always taking toys off Toby too etc. It breaks my heart because Toby just wants to play, he's always chasing after the older boys, hanging onto the bed if they're jumping on it, crawling after them if they're racing, just being that hangeronerer that no one wants.
Toby touched Dotti the other day and Dotti yelled because that's what she does and James came tearing in out of nowhere and pushed Toby over yelling 'DON'T HURT DOTTI!!!!!' and it broke my heart again that he was so protective of his little sister and no one was on Toby's side. His brother could not care less.
Comments, advice, anything much appreciated. Can I force a friendship between the two when they're young?