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My son (6) does not wish to be left alone. Hes afraid  of monsters.

I wish i could be patient enough for it not to drive me mental. Its so advanced that if i turn around to turn out a light he will turn too.

So when hes being irritating about brushing his teeth, or some other micro battle what can i do given i cant step out the room?

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rosewein
Nov. 9th, 2015 06:27 pm (UTC)

Oh hes 6 if it maters.

ba1126
Nov. 9th, 2015 06:39 pm (UTC)
You could try getting him something like a Superman doll and urge him to be strong like Superman. Or a whistle he can carry which he can blow if he spots a monster. Or a flashlight which he can shine in their eyes. Or find a book at the library which deals with the subject. My kids (a little older) were nervous about waiting for the school bus, etc. so I got them into Karate lessons,geared to kids. It's good exercise, a good studio can reinforce good values, and it may give him a sense of strength that he needs.

If you MUST remain, maybe you can keep a book or magazine handy to keep from "losing it"? Best of luck!
rosewein
Nov. 9th, 2015 07:13 pm (UTC)

Oh he recently started tai quan do ill try and convince him it will help.

mi_er
Nov. 9th, 2015 07:00 pm (UTC)
Could you either buy something or turn something you have into a magical monster repellant? make up a story around it?
The balance between taking them seriously and still also not letting them lose the ability to function (in a manner of speaking) isn't easy.
Good luck!
rosewein
Nov. 9th, 2015 07:11 pm (UTC)

I will try making him some monster repelent but i worry this may in fact confuse maters as i keep saying monsters dont exist, maybe we could clense the house with holy water or something.

mi_er
Nov. 9th, 2015 07:16 pm (UTC)
Or White sage :)
acheuleanhandax
Nov. 9th, 2015 09:23 pm (UTC)
I have a 3-year-old, but we're unwavering in the idea that monsters do NOT exist. You don't have to be afraid of them, because they are only make-believe. If a make-believe monster is scary to you, just pretend that it's a nice monster. Elmo is a nice pretend monster! Maybe it's just Elmo.
rosewein
Nov. 9th, 2015 11:13 pm (UTC)

Yes i like this i will try it, hes a funny bunny and says i know they dont exist but im still scared of them. Which is kinda hard to argue with.

acheuleanhandax
Nov. 10th, 2015 02:00 am (UTC)
It is! I'm an adult and I will read or watch something scary that I KNOW is entirely fictional, but it still gives me the creeps. It's just something you have to work through.

Has he been doing it for very long? My son got ramped up about monsters / scary stuff because of Halloween, but it's faded without reminders.
rosewein
Nov. 10th, 2015 01:56 pm (UTC)

Yes i think it worsened for Halloween. I guess we will just watch happy films for a bit.
The trouble ishe likes monsters and such, he thinks it makes him punky.

chrispina
Nov. 10th, 2015 12:54 pm (UTC)
I would probably seek some advice from a psychiatrist. Anxiety to that degree could be treated with medication.
rosewein
Nov. 10th, 2015 01:53 pm (UTC)

I think maybe i made it sound worse than it is, i can step out of the room without him loosing it. He will just be a bit put out. he knows the monsters arnt real, but he wories regardless.

chrispina
Nov. 10th, 2015 02:04 pm (UTC)
If the anxiety is interfering with his happiness and your happiness, then it's enough of a problem to get some professional advice. I suffer from anxiety and medication is the best thing I have ever done for myself.
ma_ee_uh
Nov. 10th, 2015 06:02 pm (UTC)
He *could* perhaps benefit from some treatment for anxiety, but at 6, that needn't be through pharmaceuticals.
rosewein
Nov. 10th, 2015 07:55 pm (UTC)

I have recently put him in magnesium, a product called attenrive child. I was thinking if doing it anyhow, but started suplimenting myself and noticed a big changein my moods.
But yeah, i would not consider phamasudicals at this age. He anoys me but only a normal amount.
He maybe overly ancious and ill think about seeing someone.

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