For example, this morning we went to Home Depot and he told me he wanted to wear his apron. Put it on. He starting screaming bloody murder that he wanted it off. Took it off. Started screaming bloody murder he wanted it on. (At which point I refused to put it back on.) We ended up having to leave because he had a huge meltdown. He does this with EVERYTHING. He wants shoes, no he doesn't, he wants sandals, no he wants his shoes.
After about a week my husband and I identified that he has been doing this with EVERYTHING, so we put a stop to it. (or tried too). He asks for sneakers. He put his sneakers on. He pitches a fit that he wants sandals. Too bad. Your sneakers are on your feet and they are staying.
We thought that by putting our foot down it would solve our issues. It hasn't. If anything things have gotten worse.
I'm absolutely at the end of my rope. His behavior HAS to change. I just have no idea what we're supposed to do. Like I said, my husband has the patience of a saint and even he refuses to take our son anywhere at this point.
When did you switch from a crib to a toddler bed?
Advice? Tips? Should have waited? Should have done earlier? Thanks!!
Today, we went to the zoo and ran into another face painting booth. To paint one eye cost us $10. Which is fine if it's done once in a blue moon... but now, my daughter demands the face painting all the time. (Can't blame her: she looks really darn cute with it.)
My question is, does anyone know a good tutorial on face painting and maybe a good brand of paints that can be used on kids' faces? One thing to consider is, I cannot draw a friggin' daisy for my life, and I hate drawing to begin with (ah, the things we do in the name of motherhood).
I promise to not turn this into a profitable business to rip parents off. This is strictly for home use.
We have had a big change in our house recently (my brother in law moved in with us) but the night owl behavior started before this.
I'm not a night owl, I routinely wake up around 5:30, I'm getting tired of not having the 2 hours of time between my girls bedtime and when I go to bed for snuggles with my hubby, so..any ideas? Any other early birds dealing with a night owl child?
(Side note hubby is a night owl and only wakes up at 8 to ge!tready!for work because he has to.)
- Current Mood: exhausted
- Current Mood:awake
I'm looking at getting a bike this year. I have a 6 month old baby that I'd like/have to bring along when I go for a ride. I know of those jogging strollers that you can hitch to the bike but I can't currently afford both the stroller and my bike, so I was looking at those baby seats you attach to the back of the bike.
My questions are - do I need to buy protective gear for the baby? And do you use one of those seats and can recommend a specific brand/type?
So, the assignment is to find at least 3 books appropriate for children age 0 to 8 on the given topics. All I need is the name of the book and author (I will find the rest of information for bibliography myself).
Here are the topics:
- Cultural or linguistic group identity
- Gender Identity
- Children with Special Needs
- Separation/Divorce/Remarriage/Blended Families
- Phases of the cycle of life from human reproduction to death
- If you have any other important topic in mind, please, shoot at me.
Thank you in advance.
Has anyone done cord blood banking and been able to wait until the cord stopped pulsing? Were you told you had to clamp it immediately, and if so - do you think it affected the health of your baby in any way?
Basically, when my daughter turns 2 in late November there is a program she can join at the school she will likely be attending. From what I understand, it's just a day care that you can put your kid in for half a day. I think you can put them in all week, but at the moment my husband wants her to start one afternoon a week. I've sort of agreed to it, but I'm not really sure there's any real need. I've never left her with strangers because I haven't had to, and I'm not really keen on doing it for no real reason. She is perfectly happy being away from me, she has "friends" at her playgroups, and I have "mommy friends" that we do play dates with. I don't really understand my husband (and his family's) insistence that she needs this.
I think I've always just thought that the longer a kid could be taken care of by family, the better. My husband's family seems to be the opposite - the sooner you can get the kid out of the house, the better. And I don't mean that in a negative way, just that they think kids and parents are better off when kids go for out of home care.
I guess I just want to hear what other people have done and what others think. Am I weird for not wanting her to go to a day care? Is it important that she be away from family?
When she loses her shit like this, I just talk to her calmly and try and hold her enough that she won't hurt herself, but not too much to piss her off further. I sometimes start singing to her, and that calms her down quite quickly usually.
But what I'm doing is just helping the immediate tantrum, it isn't helping the overall problem. I don't even know if there is a problem? Will she grow out of this? Will it get worse? Should I nip it in the bud? How should I do that? She can't talk so I can't have a conversation with her to try and resolve things. Will this frustration go away when she can say more? Or will it get worse?
It's been about 5-6weeks now that my daughter is with sitters - first for us. One day a week with a friend from preschool - it's aplaydate feel. Two days of week she's with just asitter. She's, the sitter, been amazing. We are all happy. It has though been exhausting for her, this new change in life and has been a true champ.
This past Thursday, daughter (almost 5years old) was probably exhausted and something triggered and she had a full meltdown on their way home from playground with sitter. She calmed down but at home something else triggered and it ended with daughter hitting the sitter.
Daughter completely denies this. Says sitter was mean and she never wants to see her again. The sitter shared in front of daughter what happened, at that time my kid never argued the story.
The triggers were, sitter asking daughter to use politeness when asking for something (she wanted something from her bag that sitter was helping to carry). And second one that led to greet hitting was she got home, grabbed a snack from shelf and was eating. She has food allergies and sitter wanted to make sure what she was eating was ok.
Since this is the first time we are experiencing this, am at a loss on what to do! Help.
16 month old normally sleeps 12 hours a night with 3 hour nap from 12-3 every day.
Went on vacation for THREE days. She refused to sleep at night and during the day.
Normal bed time is 630-7. Today we drive the three hours home starting at noon. She slept most of the way. Had dinner, bath, books and then absolute melt down. Melt. Down.
Actually...more closely to a panic attack. She did this while on vacation.
What can I do? Why is she freaking out? I get her freaking out at the hotel but now we're home. And before this she would sleep in her pack and play ANYWHERE.
Advice? What can I do to calm her down?
Eta...We let her cry it out for 15 minutes and she's asleep. After two hours of rocking, putting down, reading, putting down, cry it out then go in after five minutes and increasing time etc. Am I going to have to do that every night now? Do you think she just needs time to adjust? Will it cause more harm than good to let het flip her shit? She threw full blown temper tantrum...banging head...I've never ever seen her do this.
Also...Baby sitter is grandma and she constantly tells me how she never lets Beau play alone. Jokingly says "oh well we are in her face all day playing, I'm sure she wears you out when you're with her".....I'm wondering if we're seeing parenting styles clash? We want to put her in full time school type environment with other kids and more structure...is this my clue to make that jump? The free childcare thing is pretty awesome.
ETA ETA as of 730 5/11...she cried for 30 seconds at nap time and slept 2.5 hours and tonight she went to bed with NO issues! Back to normal! Thank you for the advice, it'll be good to have for the future!!
1. Did you find pull-ups necessary, or were you able to transition your child straight to underwear by waiting until they were ready
2. If you did use pull-ups, can you offer advice about pull-ups v. training pants and brands you recommend?
3. If you did get cloth pull-ups and/or training pants, how many pairs did you need? (We've made it two years with 24 diapers, the thought of buying another 24 pairs for just a couple of months seems annoying!)
-Reintroduced his responsibility chart which includes a "happy face" for "hands to yourself" which he knows very much includes the feline portion of our family. If he gets all the happy faces for one day he gets chocolate. He's REALLY into this. He's voluntarily cleaning the house even.
-My husband and I agreed to show as little emotion as possible when he hits a cat (hard for both of us). Whoever's attention he's trying to get (my about 80% of the time) takes said cat into the bedroom for 5-10 minutes. The other parent doesn't play with him and keeps interactions at a minimum until the cat leaves the bedroom.
Thinking it all over though, this is a symptom to an underlying issue we've had with Finn. I didn't want to get into it because it's kind of a long story, but getting this problem under control is really only treating a symptom, not the root cause and I'm a little uncertain how to get to the root cause here. I think I'm going to talk to his ped again in the near future but in the meanwhile if any of you want to hear the whole thing and offer your advice....
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He doesn't like my attention straying from him AT ALL. Unless he has a friend over or a grandparent or something like that, he wants me to be paying complete and total attention to him at all times. And if my attention wanders, even for a second, he hits or kicks one of our cats. Our cats have claws but all three are surprisingly gentle to him despite the abuse (and our pep talks to them to scratch him back.)
I mean if I'm peeing, eating, noticing a flower...he's hurting a cat. He knows I'll respond and the kicker is, I have to respond to prevent the cat from getting hurt.
He used to also hit me, months and month back, but I managed to stop that by walking away/leaving the room/leaving the house or, if he got really bad, shutting him in his room (I'd stay on the other side and explain once he calmed down that it was my job to keep everyone in the house safe, including myself and will separate him in his room if he was being unsafe with me.)
Otherwise, no aggression with other children. No aggression at school (though we did go through a period of time where he hit the teachers about a year ago, that passed quickly though). No aggression to other people's pets. And it is ALWAYS to get my attention. If he has someone over, he more or less completely ignores the cats.
I'm just at a loss to do here. I know I'm feeding it everytime I step it, but I'm in a bind because I also need to prevent him from hurting the cats.
To add to my concern, we're having a baby in early July (this has been going on before he knew I was pregnant).