- Only one child? Read on
- January 21st, 2009
How many of you here only have one child and aren't planning any more?
My husband and I have always wanted two children. We have our first, Annabelle, who is 13 months and an absolute joy in my life. Three years ago, we bought a nice little three-bedroom house and we were slowly improving it in anticipation of our family.
Needless to say, life happened, we sold our house and we moved from one of the most affordable cities in Canada to one of the least affordable cities in Canada. We cannot afford a house. At all. It is completely out of our price range. We are now living in a nice little 2-bedroom condo that suits us just fine. We cannot afford a 3-bedroom condo, it is also out of our price range. Plus, I don't want to pay a mortgage for the rest of my freakin' life, nor do I want to rent.
The plan was always to spend a few years here and then move back, but I'm not sure that's going to happen. We're enjoying the lifestyle here. My parents are here (although the rest of my family is back home, and I'm very close to my aunt) and I really like my job. I have a chance to move up here, and so does my husband.
Being a parent is, of course, the hardest thing I've ever done. The stress has been more than I anticipated - not the stress of raising a daughter, but the stress on my marriage. The thought of giving up the little freedom we now have for kid number 2 doesn't appeal to me.
My husband is bloody fantastic with children. I wish I had a 10th of his talent and ability to get along with kids of any age. He says he won't be disappointed if we don't have a second child, but I think, deep down, he wants us to try for a little boy.
My baby sister was an "oops" and is 14 years younger than me and 11 years younger than our brother. Because my parents moved away when she was 8, it's like she's an only child. She's wonderful, but she's also lonely.
Annabelle currently goes to a private in-home daycare and will until she goes to school, so she will have lots of interaction with other kids.
Culturally, having more than one child seems to be the "accepted norm." Will I have to deal with questions about why we only have one? Do you think this culture is changing? I would dearly love to hear your experiences with a one-child family.