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November 29th, 2012

Child Spacing

My husband and I have two children, 3.5 and 1, and we're going back and forth over when to try for our third (and last). To be honest, it's me that's so torn. Husband is so flexible, he'll start ASAP if that's what I want. The problem is, my head and heart want two different things. My heart says to try ASAP (January at the earliest), my head says to wait half a year more. There are pros and cons to both.

For those of you with multiple children, what is the spacing and what have been the pros and cons for you? If you could do it over again, or if you could have had an "ideal" spacing, what would you have done, or what would you choose?


Yup...first potty training post...

So DD is 20 months in a few days, and i'm scheduled to deliver baby sister on Jan 10. My dad's mom thinks things will be best if I tried getting DD potty trained or at least familiar with the potty ASAP. She says I do NOT want two in diapers, and that DD is going to regress when her baby sister comes, and it will be even harder to potty train her then. DD is really jealous and new baby isn't even here yet, so I would tend to agree. We haven't even had a potty talk yet. She follows me to the bathroom when I potty, and stays with me until I leave, and I tell her "Mommy is going to go potty," but I don't think she even gets it. I really don't think she's ready. I would like her to be able to communicate better about pottying, and at least become more comfortable and understand the idea of pottying before we just kinda spring it on her like that. I've heard of parents potty training at 2, 3, and 4. I'm thinking we should wait until she's at least 2, but that's just me. Any input?

How do you feel about toy swords and guns / Nerf guns for children? At what age do you find them appropriate for children to begin playing with, if at all?

How would you handle dropping your child off to a babysitter that lets their children / your child play with them if you do not find them appropriate?

Inspired by me picking up my 2 yr old son from my sister in laws where he spent the day playing with swords all day with my 4 and 6 year old nephews. :/ I'm not a fan of toy swords for older children, and definitely not my two year old. I just don't feel that they are necessary, and not pretend play I want him engaging in.

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So i've just not built a schedule around DD and I's day, based on what it's like already. I have a few questions though, that I thought this comm. could help me with, since you've all been so great with other issues.
Normally, DD goes to bed at 10:30pm (WAY too late in my opinion) and sleeps through the night until 8am-8:30. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the time she wakes up, but I want her to take her little butt to bed around 8:30pm, so her daddy and I can get some much needed sleep! LOL Also, she's taken to taking later naps, which I don't like. She waits until she's just dog tired and inconsolable before she'll take a nap like she did earlier. It can't be good for her to get that tired? She used to go down for a nap between 12 and 1pm, and sleep for maybe 2 hours, and wake up around 3, whereas now she wants to go to sleep around 3 or 4 and that is just not cool, because then she goes to bed later! How can I get her to start napping earlier, and going to bed earlier?

Here is our modified daily M-F schedule. On weekends her granny (my mom keeps her on Fri and Sat nights):

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We don't have a car (by choice). We live in Seattle, where the public tranpsortation system takes us where we want and need to go on a daily basis. However, I'd like to start using Zipcar for trips that take us out of the city or just into areas where the bus system isn't as good.

My son is 4 and can use a booster seat, which is easy and cheap.

My daughter, on the other hand, is 16 months old. I know that technically she should still be rear-facing, but we had switched her to front-facing before we gave our car up in August simply because her hand-me-down carseat from her brother had to be switched to front-facing at 30lb and she had already hit that at 1 year.

We left our carseats with my parents back in Ohio, and there isn't a practical way to get them all the way out here.

So, P101, what would be your recommendation for a carseat that will see only occasional use (every other month at best), have to be carried on the bus to get to the Zipcar location, and will need to accomodate a 16-month-old who now weighs 32lb and is 34" tall?

ETA: We're also on a really tight budget, so price matters, which is part of why we decided to give up our car.


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