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Teach ME how to potty train HER!

Is it normal for me to be so clueless about how potty training works?
At this point, my daughter is not quite 2 and a half and we've reached potty training milestones, I think...
1- She's no longer scared/annoyed at the potty and willingly accepts to sit on it. She does so fully clothed.
2- Because I know she ALWAYS pees when I start the water at bathtime, I've started sitting her on the potty when I start the water and both times I did, she peed (and there was much rejoicing.)

Now you're like ok, go on, what's the problem?

What now?
She doesn't ask for it or anything. I'm just lost and there's a nagging voice at the back of my mind telling me I shouldn't be!


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Dec. 7th, 2012 03:11 pm (UTC)
Besides getting her to go on the potty at the times you know she typically goes, you can also ask her about every hour. "Would you like to go on the potty?" or, "Let's go on the potty!"

It's a good idea not to push it, else she may grow resentful and not want to go. Though sometimes they get over the novelty anyway and refuse to go.

Good luck! It's not too much fun.
Dec. 8th, 2012 01:34 pm (UTC)
no, it really isn't!

She has a very strong mind of her own so I'm afraid she'll rebel if I push too much. THAT doesn't help me, at all!
Dec. 7th, 2012 03:25 pm (UTC)
With my two, prompting was required initially. One of the reasons daycares are so good at training them, I think, is because the whole class goes potty at certain times. I wouldn't nag, but saying "I see you doing the potty dance. Do you want to go potty?" and walk her to the potty. Also, before we would go out, I made a point that everyone goes potty.

The kid-driven requests come later, in my experience. It was the source of some potty accidents between the 2 year old class and the 3 year old. In the 2s, they went as a class. In the 3s, they had to ask. Asking the teacher to prompt her, resolved the issue. My son didn't train until he was 3. He quickly shifted to going on his own. He went from not trained at all to completely trained in less than 2 weeks.
Dec. 8th, 2012 01:35 pm (UTC)
hmmm... maybe I should ask her daycare what they do. (she only goes 2 days a week though.)
Dec. 7th, 2012 03:26 pm (UTC)
Each child is different. My son peed on the potty before bath time since he was 1 just because I could predict it but we didn't potty train until 2. Try naked bottom time for a few days if possible, it's usually the most effective way. Reward when she goes. They just need to "get it", like "hey, I need to pee, I should find the potty!" get it, but not necessarily, "I need to tell mommy I need to pee". Everything in stages. Some kids ask to poop first, some last. Good luck!
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Dec. 7th, 2012 06:55 pm (UTC)
I'm planning on starting potty training over the christmas holiday but am also unsure how to do it, she'll be also almost 2,5 then.
I think I will have her without a diaper most of the day when we're at home (and be prepaired for lots of dirty laundry) and put her on the potty (though she will want to use the real toilet, doesn't like the potty) after every meal, sleap and snack? And see how that goes. Putting her on every 30 minutes or so seems a bit too much?

We have lots of friends with older children, but no-one seems to really remember what they did and when!
Dec. 7th, 2012 08:25 pm (UTC)
She doesn't ask for it, because she doesn't yet realize that she's supposed to go in the potty all the time. She knows you praise her for it, but doesn't know that she'll eventually stop using a diaper all together.

My daughter is nearly two and has been day trained since 16 months... We took her FREQUENTLY to the potty. We were always excited and cheerful, "lets to sit on the potty and try to pee!". At first, it was every 30-45 minutes. We also did a lot of naked time at first.

She still sometimes won't ask because she's too distracted with a toy or game. If it has been a long while since she's gone, I'll ask/remind her to go, but she always holds the pee until we do go.

Like others have said, don't stress out- she'll sense your stress and may resist going!
Dec. 7th, 2012 08:32 pm (UTC)
We used the 3-day potty training method when my son was 2.5. It worked like a charm and he fully day-trained at the end of the three days and fully sleep-trained after about a week. We've had the occassional accident here and there but he was pretty much good by then.

If you PM me your email address, I can email you the pdf.
Dec. 8th, 2012 02:10 am (UTC)
Could you send me the PDF too? We're doing pretty good with "hey do you need to use the potty" and "hey let's go to the bathroom" but not so good with the rest.
Dec. 8th, 2012 02:47 am (UTC)
Sure. Just PM me your email address. :-)
Dec. 8th, 2012 02:36 am (UTC)
What is this magical thing you speak of?
Dec. 8th, 2012 02:47 am (UTC)
Awesomeness. In pdf form. :-)
Dec. 8th, 2012 12:14 pm (UTC)
This is what we used! IT WORKS! I am off work Sat to Mon so I picked my weekend and did it (when he was 2 1/2). I also invested in some carpet cleaner for accidents!

We also had him running around in only a shirt and naked from the waist below. We had his little potty. Frequently asked him, etc. He started getting upset when he had an accident on the first day, but I think him being able to see what his body was doing, he was making connections to the feelings leading up to those actions. By day two he would often just miss the potty but would always make an effort to run for it. By day three, I think he had 1 accident and the rest of the time got himself on the potty in time and also did a poo!

I told the childminder who watches him while I'm at work on the Friday that I was starting it on Saturday. She said she would get her little potty out for him when he came back to her Tuesday. She was shocked on Tuesday. He went to her in underwear only, and had no accidents at all that day at her house, and with her encouraging/asking, he always got to the potty in time.

He'll be 3 in January but fully potty trained. I HIGHLY recommend the 3 day method! I've never had an accident when we're out of the house at restaurants, etc. Never! He can hold his pee/poo, he is very good at taking himself to his potty or if we're out letting us know he has to go.
Dec. 8th, 2012 04:33 pm (UTC)
Yup, it was like magic! We found the real trick (for me to get used to) was not to ask "do you need to use the potty?" because then my son would just say "no" to maintain control. Whenever we continually said "please tell me when you need to use the potty" (on repeat endlessly for three days straight - ohgods how crazy-making that was!), he would eventually tell us when he had to use the potty. The first day had a lot of accidents but by the third day, he would only have a dribble of pee before telling us he had to use the potty.

After our three days, we had to drop my husband off downtown and were in rush hour traffic. Suddenly, my son yells out from the back seat that he has to poop in the potty. He held it until I could find a lane to stop in and I pulled out the potty for him to use in the hatchback. Poor little guy had an upset tummy and he still held his poop until I had the potty out - on day 4 of starting potty training!

The thinking I really had to get used to was throwing out the diapers and not using any training pants, even when going out. All I had to do was ask him to remind me when he had to use the potty every once in a while.
Dec. 8th, 2012 05:25 pm (UTC)
Yeah - actually, come to think of it, I was telling him to let me know when he had to go pee or poo (I specified since "potty" can be pretty general) more often then asking him he he had to go.

Yeah! We didn't have anymore diapers and put the cloth away and just let go. Definitely worth it. Man, pull-ups and training pants are such a con! Why bother?! :)

He went from two-ish days with nothing on and then we tried the underwear to help him get used to pulling them up and down on his own when he had to go. His full official underwear day was the 4th day, when he went to the childminder's house for the day. And I was nervous going to her house and going home when I picked him up since we use public transport, but absolutely no problems. I'd just make sure he went right before we left anywhere and right when we got home and he's just done so, so good now that he's been doing this since August. The childminder was really impressed with how fast it happened (she had never heard of the three day method.)
I'm so glad we managed to not spend so much time and money on something that can be fairly straight-forward when a toddler is ready.
Dec. 8th, 2012 08:43 am (UTC)
My mom just potty trained my daughter this month ( fellow junebug so about the same age). for the first few days, she just had her in training pants and put her on the potty about every half hour to hour. She did have a few accidents. Then suddenly after a few days, she started telling us that she had to pee, so thats when we would put her on. She has had a couple accidents since, but so far so good. We sometimes have to remind her as well when she is busy or distracted. We still put a diaper foor naps and night time. I still haven't tried going out with her to the store though...not sure what to do about that. Good luck!
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